Have you ever think how easily we vent our anger to the
people we love the most? Meanwhile, we need to think a hundred times before
finally outburst our anger to someone else.
It took maybe dozens of quarrel to make me realize the
answer of that question. I thought we just have a great confidence, that those we
love, will always love us without any condition. Moreover, you will think that every
mistreatment you do, all you have to do is tell them you are sorry and
apologize. And as usual, they will forgive you because tons of love they
have for you.
It is, indeed, certainly not a proper thing to be a habit. Surely
there will be a time when they finally feel very tired of our demeanor; they
will reach the end of their rope. There will be a time when they felt that that
was the last time you were forgiven. Somehow they will eventually leave you, it
might be the consequence of your bad behavior, or they just want to keep their
own hearts from being hurt. In fact, the worst thing that could happen is when
you are too late to apologize; they had already gone, intentionally, yet for
good.
There was a story about a student and teacher who was love
him a lot. Every mistake he did was always forgiven. He was very cocky, because
he thought he could do anything he wanted. If any mistakes has been made, all
he need to do was went to his teacher and asked for apologize. With the
abundant love for his student, the teacher always forgave him and defended him
in front of the other teachers. Until one day, he was playing with a candle in
the library up to felt a sleep. However, when he awoke the entire library and
the school was burned. He was very scared, he wanted to meet his teacher to have
a shelter and apologize. Unfortunately, it has all came too late. He could no
longer ask for apologize from his teacher, because his teacher was burned along
with the school and library.
Consequently, before everything change into regret, remind
yourself to cherish those people you care the most. If you want to be
understood, you need to understand them first. If you don’t want to get hurt, then
don’t hurt them. Simple rule. In fact, you should realize that they just human
being, just like you. They might have fragile heart, and state of patience. And
the last, the substantial thing here is we are all—evens those with nerves of
steel—have our own time. Either to forgive or to apologize.
*Little note for my self.
